Ladies, at this most NCAA hoopster-hysterical time of the year, why not – no, Definitely! – get your favorite gym rat out for a game of ’21’. Relax, its not breaking any Guy Codes to clue the ladies about this smaller than the bedroom (but potentially related) stroke problem.
Its easy to ride the testosterone train when hubby-boyfriend returns triumphant, victory setting off that adorable story-teller who wants to replay drives and rainbow jumpers, doling out three-beer kisses and tastefully sweaty manliness. Nobody likes a whiner, but when story-teller is bringing you a mental boo-boo like ‘I sucked’ because they missed a couple foul shots that meant staying out of two basketball games, and ‘We should have won’ but he missed a couple more unguarded shots from that distance, well, this is your time.
Consider this information relative to ‘Five Minute Great Abs!’ tabloid ads because you’ll feel show-offy smooth and quietly better, but recognize there’s a possibility that winning can go either way for all He/She battles.
Guys almost always assume victory, perhaps forgetting you were an All-State guard in high school, maybe All-Conference in college, have three brothers, was #1 scorer on your intramural co-ed team, or just how many hours you hoisted foul shots in the back yard while carrying a second child because it brought a measure of peace to your body, which otherwise felt seriously wonky-off kilter.
Free-throw shooting is a premium skill
Fifteen feet, up and in. Especially with any ‘small white guard’ tag attached, making free throws was integral to playing basketball at all levels during formative years, the lights and attention are just bigger-brighter at NCAA time. Those extra points are supposedly gravy, playing with house money, a piece of cake, punishing opponents for hacking the wrong guy. All kidding aside, foul-shooting is a legitimate point of pride and extremely fair way of judging oneself Better- its not just free throw shooting, okay?
Hoopsters believe free-throw shooting (the terms are interchangeable) is elementally linked to a Universal Cookie Jar-type reward system: Do well there, somehow earn (deserve!) goodies, from successful dates to 12-packs of Michelob Light to new jobs. Three nights before my 60th birthday, I missed FIVE in a row, totally dissatisfied with my shot and life. A few months later, having rediscovered effective shooting techniques during a just-sneakers-and shorts-lets-get-this-right-again session (after eight hours of retail laboring), damn straight! a terrific job offer dropped into the equation.
Coincidence you say? Not hardly.
Almost everyone understands the simple but absolute fairness of this elemental basketball situation. When a player has been fouled, the penalty is an uncontested shot (or two, sometimes three) from a line 15 feet from the backboard. ’21’ isn’t a me and you, dribble and shoot one-on-one battle, nor HORSE, where failure to make more difficult shots by one player adds letters to the others ‘total’ until a final letter (E) ends the game. ’21’ is about free-throw accuracy, not physical size and superiority.
Although players get a chance at a one-point layup if they’ve broken the ice (meaning made at least one free throw earlier), the best option is to make as many consecutive foul shots as possible each turn to end the game faster. As kids, making ten in a row (x2=20) put immediate ‘you miss, you lose!’ pressure on an opponent. (Couple years ago I strung together 14, something I hadn’t accomplished in decades; other guy made 13!)
Its supposedly gravy, playing with house money, a piece of cake, punishing opponents for hacking the wrong guy. All kidding aside, foul shooting is a legitimate point of pride and extremely fair way of judging oneself Better- its not ‘just’ foul-shooting, okay?
Battle of the sexes – depends how you play it
FTs are worth a single point in regular games – when you’re only counting what’s happening as just a game on the most ordinary plane. If, or probably when, you’ve heard your ex-gym rat express an “That idiot missed both and he’s been shooting the lights out! ANYBODY should be able to make one, everyone knows you don’t make foul shots, you wind up going home!” opinions, THAT would be the time to extend your challenge to ‘play for something.’
Does it matter what task or amount? Ohhhh, you BET is does for 97.4% of red-blooded males, but cash should be a secondary consideration. A primary concern for such challenges is/should be gaining the 100% attention of said male. Whether or not you get to uhhh, playfully, dog him about losing is up to you, but if its usually a hassle to get the garbage taken out, he’ll remember there are three more days left in your bet. As George (from Seinfeld) might complain, he’s got no (upper) hand. BUT…
Is he going to want another chance, probably sooner than later? You betcha.
You could just volunteer to chase misses while he works out some frustration about sucking, but if he WINS, isn’t everyone happier? (DO NOT TANK and think you rescued his ego!) Will he brag to his buddies about victory? Probably not, although guys do deserve a few props if She/you IS a former All-Something competitor.
Is it legitimate to talk smack, throw an errant pass back that makes them move off a good spot (very legit gamesperson-ship), maybe offer an immediate rematch? Absolutely, he can miss eight minutes of the second half and maybe you don’t care, especially when the next game is the one he’s really been psyched to see.
Bottom line, most guys are not snake-bite, 88% poison on foul-shooting like they might imagine. In another foul-shooting situation called ‘Rochester,’ its an everyone-against-everyone game, and when you score a basket, you get the chance to make up to three foul shots. Score 7-8-9 points without having to knock heads with six other dudes, that’s an incentive. Missing the ‘and one’ at 21 causes you to go back to 15, which is obviously not a best practices thing to do three or four times – you will get beat.
So March Madness can become a regular time for some extra competition, and he WILL appreciate the chance to shoot it out with you. You can also get out a bit and work on your stroke rather than just soothing his ego by losing. If he wins the right to have you bring him beers, is an empty hand raised and ‘Honey?’ the worst thing you can imagine, because win one and its negotiation time; you don’t have to take EVERY bet. Favorite dinner that YOU don’t make, or who takes carpool soccer duty this week? For sure.
Foul-shooting is 100% fair competition. Have some fun with it, don’t sweat your brackets either. If good ol’ Sunspot U. can’t do better than 8-22 from the line, be thankful you missed a bunch of that game. If he comes back laughing, bonus points.
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